A licensed relationship coach and attachment specialist — and someone who had to learn all of this the hard way first.
Licensed Relationship Coach
Attachment Specialist
@askabbyattachment
For years, I repeated the same relationship dynamics — anxiously chasing people who couldn't show up for me, feeling too much, and somehow always ending up in the same place.
It wasn't until I learned about attachment theory that something finally clicked. It gave me the language and the framework to understand why I kept doing what I was doing — and more importantly, how to change it.
I went deep. Got certified. Spent years studying the research, working with clients, and doing my own healing alongside them.
Now I help people do the same. Not just understand their attachment style on paper — but actually rewire it.
You don't have to have had a perfect childhood to become secure. Anyone can build earned security with the right tools.
Nothing you've done in relationships is random or broken. Every pattern was once a solution. We honor that before we change it.
Knowing your attachment style is step one. Actually building new responses in real relationships is the work.
You can't rewire attachment in isolation. Safe, consistent relational experiences are how the nervous system actually changes.
Take the free quiz and get clarity on your pattern — the first step toward real change.
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