Hi, I'm Abby.

My Story

I didn't start as an expert. I started as someone who couldn't figure out why love always felt so impossible.

For most of my life, I lived inside a contradiction I couldn't name. I desperately wanted closeness — and I was terrified of it at the same time. I'd pull people in and push them away. Get overwhelmed by intimacy. Struggle to trust people I genuinely loved. My relationships felt chaotic and confusing, and no matter how much I wanted them to work, something always seemed to collapse.

I didn't know I was disorganized attached. I just thought I was broken.

When I finally found attachment theory, it didn't just give me a label — it gave me the first explanation that actually made sense. It explained the push-pull. The fear of abandonment that lived right next to the fear of closeness. The way I could want something and run from it in the same breath. For the first time, my patterns had roots — and roots can be worked with.

The healing wasn't fast. Disorganized attachment doesn't tend to be. But I did the work — in therapy, in honest relationships, and eventually in training to help others navigate the same terrain. I've now built what researchers call earned security: a way of being in relationships that feels stable, trusting, and genuinely mine.

That journey is why I do this. Not because I read about it — because I lived it. And I know what it takes to get from one side to the other.